Howdy peeps! How long has it even been? I don’t know at the moment because I’m typing this update on my notes app while on a plane bound for Costa Rica! No internet up here so I can’t even look at the blog!
Well after almost 3 1/2 years after the adoption I know why adoption blogs almost all drop off drastically after the kids come home or not long after. You see it’s a privacy thing…. Writing about the process and even the kids is therapeutic while you’re in process. And I so much wanted to document the steps for families following along behind us since the program was still developing. But now, I get it. You can no longer blog to who knows how many strangers about every little thing going on in your life and how the kids are doing day to day. It’s no longer new and exciting. It’s day to day for us now. And mostly it’s good. Our kids have bonded to each other and to us better than we had any right to ask of them. And they have trusted themselves to us as parents. Around the time we hit the 4 year milestone next May we will be hitting a really huge milestone. Our kids will have been with us longer than they where in the children’s home, and for our youngest two, longer than they were with their bio mom. I can’t really put into words why I think this is a big deal. But it feels like it is important to me.
God is working on their little hearts. We see it in the smallest changes and the biggest ones. In between being normal bratty picking on each other KIDS they demonstrate great love for each other, little times of helping each other, comforting each other, etc. it’s very sweet. They have been asking the hard questions. The big ones. Does God expect us to forgive someone who has done us a great wrong (I’m not talking about stealing a pencil here people. I’m talking about the big trauma….) and when we discussed it, then saying “ok I’m going to try” this is huge!
When we first came home I loved making friends and talking to families behind us in the adoption process. And made some great friends (love you Audra and Laurie let’s get together again soon!). But I then went through a phase where I was a little bitter and jaded and didn’t even want to hear how excited these families were. Oh man I thought they have no clue what they are in for and our journey has been EASY PIECE OF CAKE WALK compared to other families!!!! Well I have recently made some contacts with new families and have found my joy in that again! We met a sweet couple starting the process of switching their paperwork to Costa Rica from another country in order to pursue a sibling group of FIVE!!! And y’all said we were crazy! Haha. I honestly love the joy they have! And seeing them walk their journeys reminds us of the drive we had to bring OUR KIDS home. The memory of literally laying on my face in prayer and tears for them to be matched with us! And the joy and shock when we finally heard that they were! Thank you God for these people in our lives that bring us back to seeing and remembering that part of the process! We are thankful for you all!
Recently I’ve begun talk with our adoption agency and a wonderful woman that is created a working memory cognitive brain therapy curriculum. We used the program with or kids and have been extremely please with the results! I have these grand ideas for future missions partnerships with (un)adopted and equipping minds. But I need to move slowly now and learn and wait and make sure this is God’s idea and not my own, because I have too many ideas! I’ve been thinking a lot on this plane and am seeing how this could work…. I’ve had a lot of interest from our Costa Rican families to want to take a mission trip back to Costa Rica wth their kids…. And I can see it!!!!